6 Wrong Parents That Prevent Children from Growing Up
Posted On 02/05/2020
6 Wrong Parents That Prevent Children from Growing Up
[Introduction]The most important thing for parents is to educate their children, but sometimes some mistakes in life may become obstacles to children’s growth. The following six things may be counterproductive. Parents must be careful
Scenario 1 Mother is off from work. When she opens the door, she sees: Duoduo is watching TV while eating dinner, trying to play with too many toys.
Grandma followed Duoduo holding the rice bowl.
Putting down the backpack, the mother said, “Too much, just now my mother saw the uncle of the police downstairs.
He told his mother that he was looking for a baby who didn’t eat seriously, and he was going to catch the bad baby in the police station.
Are you afraid of police uncle?
Stop obedient and put you in the police station!
“After dinner, my mother saw too much excitement and ran around in the neighborhood, sweating a lot.
Another post from the mother: “A lot, Doctor Aunt is coming to arrest you!
Come here and get dressed.
Otherwise, let you go to the hospital and get an injection!
“Comment → Parents do not rely on” frightening “in their lives. Some parents will borrow the authority of special police figures such as” police “,” doctor “and” thief “to” threate “children to eat and sleep.
Maybe it works for a while, but after a long time, the children will be afraid of each other in these occupations, and they will feel insecure.
When children are not obedient, parents can’t help but put on adults’ authority, coercion, order, and intimidation. These are not good communication methods.
Why don’t parents compose a cute little story, or follow the child’s temperament preferences to explore some more wise methods.
More patient and childlike communication with children, children will be more acceptable.
Scene 2 Lele piled sand with her mother.
After a while, the water was raised, and the earth was piled up.
At this time, a small companion came over and wanted to borrow a shovel.
Before Lele responded, her mother said, “Lele, lend it to my brother, will you?
Le Lebei, good things for everyone to share.
Mother told you, be generous . “After a long discussion, mother gave the shovel to her companion.
What about Cola?
Turned away and walked away.
Opinion → Don’t make your child “long face” bigger. Take it out to play. Of course, parents want their child to “long face” themselves.
However, Lele ‘s behavior broke through and disrupted the independent communication between children, leaving Lele an opportunity to exercise with her peers.
Smart parents always stand behind their children.
When encountering similar problems, parents do not obstruct waiting for a while, first observe the child’s reaction. If the child is willing to lend the shovel to the other party, immediately hug the child and tell the child: “You are great!
“If the child is unwilling to borrow, you can join in at the right time to guide him to associate with his peers correctly.
Scene 3 In the ocean ball pool, a group of children are playing.
An older brother quickly and skilfully slipped off the slide on the side and slammed into the ball pool.
At this time, the mothers chatting around came along, muttering, and took their babies out of the ball pool.
In a short time, there were only two or three older children in the ball pool.
Opinion → Don’t use worldly prejudice to evaluate the children watching the older children “rudely” break into the ocean ball pool, and the mothers chatting around quickly took “protection” measures and took the baby out.
Parents use their own expectations to protect the children’s body, but destroy the children’s valuable learning environment.
Parents expect the child in their hearts, but on the surface they must walk calmly to the pool.
You can guide your baby to applaud this elder brother, and the older child will not be too pleased to see the parents.
Moreover, most of the interactions between children are not malicious. Parents can “protect in secret” without sacrificing the happy atmosphere on the scene.Scene 4: The family went out to play in the park. It was lively.
When she saw the flowers, she said with a smile, “Baby, this is a chrysanthemum.
See her flowers are yellow!
“Far away, the windmill is turning. Dad said,” Baby, look, that’s a windmill. ”
“At this moment, when Grandpa looked up and found the pigeon, he yelled,” Baby, there are pigeons flying in the sky. ”
“. Comment → Don’t look at the world for the children. Before the children themselves discover it, parents can’t wait to point out what they see.
On the surface, this is to impart knowledge to the baby, but it actually limits the child’s overall observation ability and deprives them of the joy of self-exploration.
Parents may wish to wait until your child pays special attention to something before you speak.
Also, be careful not to tell your child what it is, or use questions to guide your child to observe.
For example, when your baby is looking at flowers, you can ask: Are you looking at this?
What’s on it?
What color is the flower?
. Scene 5 Niu Niu just got up for a while and watched “Teletubbie” in the room.
“Niuniu, throw your urine bag into the trash!
“Mom shouted outside.
At this time, Grandpa entered the room, and Niu Ni immediately smiled and said, “Grandpa throw, Grandpa throw!
“Grandpa kindly touched Niu Niu’s head and raised the urine bag to come out. She said to her mother proudly:” Our Niu Niu is getting smarter and doesn’t throw me away, this little guy, haha. ”
“Niu Niu is 8 a week. Grandpa is free. He likes to play with Niu Niu most.
“Girl, hit grandpa, hit grandpa!
“Grandpa grabbed the baby’s little hand with a smile, and patted his face gently. Niu Niu chuckled while laughing.
Opinion → Don’t be confused because the child is cute. When children use “little clever” and “little tricks” to deal with adults, many parents know that they are wrong, but they can’t help being clever about their children.
Parents’ inconsistencies in expression, tone, and actions often prevent children from correctly distinguishing them, leading to false imitation.
The child’s initial sense of social order and rules often come from a frightened family environment.
Niuniu is really smart and knows how to “pass on” things to Grandpa, but it is not worthy of appreciation.
Parents should tell her calmly that they have to do their own things.
In the face of children’s “smartness,” parents need to be more rational, and the whole family is consistent.
Scenario 6 A group of children are playing together. The mother sees the baby playing with an older, lively elder brother.
At this moment, the big brother nudged the baby.
It’s just because the baby is standing in the wrong position and purely malicious, the baby walks away naturally.
But at this moment, the mother ran like an arrow and shouted, “Be careful, baby!
Let’s go play there.
“Comment → The child is not as fragile as you think, and the big brother was pushed by a chair. Too many parents will feel uncomfortable and think their child is bullied.
In fact, children’s interactions are simple, and they express their emotions very directly.
Maybe the first minute, they were still pushing around, and the next minute, they hugged and cheered.
Parents take an adult’s eye to “protect” and make their children lose many opportunities for “frustration.”
The parent guards the child forever and forever, let him try to solve it first, in fact, the child is very strong.
In six small scenes of life, different educational wisdom is hidden.
I hope that the senior teacher Weng Juan can sincerely suggest that parents who can have different “graffiti behaviors” have some understanding, and strive to improve themselves and become the “sculptor” who has been on the road to growing up.